The Heights | Advisory for Students

Advisory for Students

Number and Duration of Meetings
The Advisor meets with each advisee at least once a month. The meeting is
one-on-one where the advisor can give his full attention to the advisee. Accidental
conversations in the hallway, quick check
ups, group meals, sideline chitchat, etc.,
although encouraged and quite effective some times, do not take the place of an
advisory meeting. Although a meeting may be longer, especially at the beginning
of the year, 15 minutes will quite often be sufficient. For Lower School students,
5-10 minutes will be in most cases sufficient.

Nature and Scope of Advice Given
Advisory seeks to help each boy in the areas suggested in the mission of the
School: intellectual, moral, physical, and spiritual. But before explaining each
area in detail, there are some general considerations that are worth discussing.
The conversation between the advisor and the advisee should have a relaxed
tone — an exchange among friends. It should have the tenor of a friendship of an
older brother with a younger one, or a father with a son.
There are certain subjects that should be brought up regularly that the advisor
should be familiar with:

School Work
Grades
Reasons for good/bad grades
Study habits
Anticipating possible problems
Reading for
pleasure
Temperament and Personality
General temperament: extrovert, introvert, calm, nervous,
etc.
Strengths and Weaknesses
Self-knowledge
Interests/hobbies
Friendships
Human refinement: language/dress/personal grooming
Family Life
Charity to parents and siblings
Use of time
Obedience to parents
Responsibilities at home: chores; spirit of service; example to younger siblings
Moral Formation and Character
Learning to choose the good
Seeking truth
Use of technology
Respect for women: mothers, sisters, friends
Self-dominion
Courage to do and say the right thing
Life of Faith
Taking advantage of the spiritual activities at School
Serving others
Learning to pray
Aspirations: What is the advisee looking forward to?
Worries and Concerns

The Advisor/Advisee Conversation

The advisor should always make the advisor/advisee conversations an occasion
for the advisee to feel he is understood. It’s not the time for reprimands or guilt
trips, but quite the opposite. The advisor tries to create an environment where
the young person opens up because he feels he is being heard. This, of course, is
particularly important for older students as they are trying to exert their own
personalities. The advisee should know from the beginning that this conversation is not a time to complain about teachers or his parents. The advisor will listen and help the boy
understand why his parents want this or that or why that teacher gave that assignment.